The therapy session ends with a girlfriend who comes out of the house, but there is a twist

The private therapy session of a man became the unexpected beginning of the end of his relationship after his girlfriend returned early and listened to his call for a viewed.

In a Reddit article which sparked a wave of support and concern, the original poster (OP), the User Conuse___, told how his girlfriend listened to about 30 minutes before realizing that she was at home.

According to her post, she stormed, furious at what she had heard.

“I had talked about our relationship and I had, in the heat of [the moment]jumped to hurtful conclusions about the way people around me feel for her, which I fear that I put badly saying as I don’t like, “said the PO.

“I also talked about our relationship, certain stress, everything to get out and talk about it.

“She says that she feels betrayed and as if she had been stabbed in the back. I feel horrible, and I could not interpret my feelings on this subject either, and I answered angry.”

In a follow -up article two weeks later, the OP said that after reading the answers to his first post, he realized that his girlfriend should not have listened.

He wrote: “We had an argument shortly after doing the post, [and] She blamed me for everything, said a lot of hurtful things.

“I leaned over to the rupture when all his script turned. She acted as if she was wrong on everything, made me feel that she was going to change for the best.

“She was not.”

A toxic relationship

Although he told his girlfriend that he wanted time to think about their relationship, she ignored her wishes and he started to recognize the models that alarmed him.

“I realized that I was in a toxic relationship, where I cut my friends and family for this person for whom I would never be enough,” he said.

He finally ended the relationship and blocked her after she presented herself at her home and threatened to commit suicide.

Reddit reacts

More than 1,000 Reddit users have taken the comments on the two articles to provide support and advice, much applauding his bravery.

One of them wrote: “I am so proud of you to have made the difficult decision and to prioritize what is good for you for what is easy.

“Give yourself time to treat your emotions. You do not want to enter a new relationship while you still feel in distrust or betrayal.

“Find your feet and reconstruct these friendships. Once you have done this, you will be ready to start your next stronger and healthier relationship.”

Another added: “It takes a lot of strength. Good for you.”

‘I had to take a step back’

In a message to NowsweekThe PO explained: “It was a toxic and manipulative relationship that I reconciled with far too late.

“I hope she gets the help she needs, but I had to step back for my own mental health.

“I hope someone else on each side of a toxic relationship like this can see through it and get the help they need.”

The importance of limits

The experience of the PO reflects common models in the ruptures of relationships, including the violation of personal limits and the delayed recognition of emotional imbalance.

According to psychcentral, the persistent contempt for borders – as to ignore the demands of a space partner, repeatedly reject his needs or emotionally manipulating them – may be signs of deeper problems.

“If someone’s actions, beliefs or communication resembles a border violation, it is important to make it known and keep your border,” said therapist Katie Lorz in the psychcentral article.

“Stay clear, firm and coherent”

Threats, emotional manipulation and non -invited demonstration – in particular after being invited to distance – can also point out the dependent codean or control the dynamics.

“Once you have changed your behavior, you may notice that your beloved trying even harder to bring you to the way things were,” said therapist Quinelle Hickman in the same psychcentral relationship.

“If you stay clear, firm and consistent around your border, over time, you will see a modified behavior of your loved one.”

The tilting point

A recent study by researchers in psychology Janina Bühler and Ulrich Orth revealed that most couples experience a long slow erosion of satisfaction which accelerates in the final phase of a relationship.

Research, published in the Personality and Social Psychology Journalhas shown that the tilting point can occur one to two years before a break.

“Once this terminal phase has been reached, the relationship is doomed to an end,” said Bühler Nowsweek.

Nowsweek contacted Conuse___ to comment via Reddit.

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