My wife had more than 50 sexual partners-So why doesn’t she sleep with me? | Life and style

I have been with my wife for 12 years. She recently admitted that she had many more sexual partners than me, over 50 years old, but it could be 100. She had only a few longterm relations. I didn’t think the number bored me: I did notOw her then, It was before we come together And We cannot change the past. However, we almost never have sex (only once with each three to four months) and his libido Placed a cliff after the birth of our first child almost 10 years ago. She says it is the stress of children but I can’t help but feeling She no longer finds me attractive. Wrongly or wrongly, I now be upset that she was Ready to have sex with so many people before me but does not want to have sex with me.

When the libido from one partner decreases, it is very common for the other to assume that the partner no longer feels the same attraction as before, but this is often not the case. It is very likely that your wife has trouble invoking sexual feelings in general because she does not feel like a sexual being herself. To feel the desire of another person, you must feel sexually confident in you.

Sexual trust understands having a positive body image and perceiving themselves as a person who could attract others. It is true that the presence of children can lead to a disturbance of libido by lack of intimacy, fatigue, concern and other factors and this can also cause the sexual person to be lost. This conversation on its previous partners may have even been an erroneous attempt on its part to excite you and reconnect with its previous erotic nature.

Instead of focusing on his past, try to think of ways to help him consider himself a sensual being, perhaps by looking at erotic moments at the start of your relationship. Sometimes going back to situations where you have shared such moments can serve as reminders and inspiration to help you return to intimacy.

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