I am a 56 year old child widow. My husband deceased two years agoAnd I I am now in a long distance relationship with a 55-one -year -old. We have been going out together for six months. Our sex life is really good, but it will not give me oral sex. I love to please it but When he does not reciprocateAnd me feel missed and As if something is wrong with me. When I Addressed the subject, he said that he wanted to wait to see if we became serious enough for marriage and that he would do it. He says he did it in the past without being married, so I don’t understand.
I will Stop giving him oral sex, but I’m afraid that it ends our relationship. I know I need to set limits but I don’t know how. It’s a big hug when we sleep and he never withdraws my handWhich is very important to me. My late husband, who was very disrespectful towards me, was not really affectionate Unless we are Be intimate but he was always happy to give me oral sex. I see myself as a strong woman; I take care of myself and I don’t look at my age, so I don’t know what’s wrong.
He constantly talks about our future together, but the lack of intimacy is really to create a corner between us. I don’t want him to think I’m mean, but I have to have an equally balanced relationship. I Being overwhelmed when I think about losing it.
You don’t have to lose it. You take its lack of reciprocity to be a mark of disrespect, and it could well be, but try to understand that different people have different sexual preferences, and that in the case of your new partner, it probably does not like to give oral sex and will never do it. At 55, he developed a defined sexual style that does not include everything you like. Sangager oral sex as an exciting option after marriage is only his way of avoiding it. Try to decide whether the other ways it pleases and respects you compensate overall.
It is not a default in you, although it is very understandable that you can think. Your past marriage – and perhaps many other situations – has made you aware of the light and relational imbalances, so you will do well to think carefully about what you can tolerate in this new relationship, and I hope to have conversations that help him get to know you better. Intimacy is not only a question of physical proximity; Real intimacy is to share that you are really in a sexual and non -sexual context.
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