OP -ED: Tiffany Haddish calling for women with two “mentally ill” babies is deeply harmful – here is why

After divorced at 31, I decided that I had one and finished with the children. I was afraid of becoming a single mother twice and terrified to have several baby papas, also known as the Father Multiple fertility. Admittedly, I was also worried about the way people would judge me if I had several baby fathers. Obviously, my concerns were not unfounded.

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During an interview with the In Godfrey, we trust the podcast,, Tiffany Haddish shared his opinions on women with more than two baby fathers.

“I could be completely wrong and the internet will probably destroy me for that, but I think that women who have more than two baby dads, generally have a kind of mental illness,” said Haddish, adding that these women become genetically modified twice.

She explained: “Each time you get pregnant, there are stem cells that come from this baby, and stem cells are found behind your eyes, your brain, your heart, your lungs and your stuff to help your organs heal while the baby takes you.

THE Trip of girls The actress added that these stem cells are still with you, which means that man is “always in you”.

“And that is why the Bible says that you will only want your husband, which is why you should use condoms,” she added.

It seems that Haddish referred to a phenomenon called fetal microchimérisme, that is to say where a small number of cells in a development fetus cross the placenta and remain in the mother’s body-sometimes for decades after pregnancy. Essentially, mom and baby share the cells and DNA of others during pregnancy, the fetus often transferring more cells to the mother. Since children carry the DNA of both parents, this is perhaps what Haddish heard by man “always inside you”.

The actress added: “If you get pregnant with several people … There are several minds, several thoughts, multiple modifications from different strands of DNA.”

Although the concept of fetal microchimérism can have a bite, the idea that women who have several children with several men suffer from a mental illness and suggest that it is caused by DNA and cell mixture is wrong. I will not even disturb my words – to say that on a public platform is simply reckless. There are tenuous opinions that should stay in a group cat, and this is one of them.

Unfortunately, Haddish did not end his opinions there. She also said that having several baby fathers and transporting various men’s cells is the reason why women are struggling.

“Usually, these B * chesters struggle in different ways … not only financially, but with where to concentrate, because you have too many different lines in your blood,” she said.

As a person who often has an opinion on things, I am completely for people to have strong opinions and often appreciate when these opinions are controversial. However, we are responsible for not sharing harmful POVs, especially for the black community. Research shows that multipartite fertility is more common in black and multi -racial parents than in white and Asian parents.

Haddish’s opinions are harmful, not only because logic is defective, but also because it blames all the blame on black mothers and does not challenge the systems in which we try to survive. To worsen things, these delicate opinions come from a black woman.

I will not deny that mental illness is more widespread in black mothers-we experience a higher prevalence of maternal mental health problems, such as postpartum depression and anxiety, compared to national estimates of the United States. In addition, women who have more than one baby father experienced more stress and mental health problems than women who share children with one father. However, this is not the complete image. These mental health challenges do not happen simply because women have several fathers for babies and mix energies with several men.

Haddish’s opinion bypassing current factors that contribute to poor mental health in black mothers such as systemic racism, poverty, socioeconomic factors and lack of access to adequate care. And before all the responsibility stops, yes, I think that black women should take some responsibility if having several father father has a negative impact on their well-being. But we must also keep our feet on the neck of the systems that keep us oppressed and are ashamed of being environmental products they have created. Haddish’s opinions do not hold space for both, but rather focuses on the shame of women and making noisy affirmations without giving this conversation the range and the level of critical thinking that it deserves.

Aside from systemic problems, there are several reasons why a mother could end up with several fathers to her children. Divorce, death and learn to cycle with regard to love can all have an impact on the number of baby dads with.

If we want to see a positive change in the black community with regard to our family structures, mental and economic well-being, love and grace will be more powerful tools than shame. At least, if you don’t have the range to have a conversation on subjects that have as much weight, do not have the conversation at all.