I am exhausted but I survive. How can I cure professional exhaustion without expensive free time? | Health and well-being

How can I cure professional exhaustion while having to do exactly the same things that have contributed to professional exhaustion? Over the past seven years, I have worked in government roles and endured intense intimidation and misogyny. At the same time, beautiful colleagues were also frightened or intimidated in silence. I am On a contract with a truly charming Team but it is in the short term and I must now apply for even more jobs.

I have beautiful friends and we support each other, I use the support service for labor employees and I have an excellent therapist, and I feel comfortable financially as long as I continue to win what I earn.

Overall, I know I manage and survive, but I am exhausted. I cannot contemplate a vacation because it comes out directly from my savings, I can barely consider watching The job lists and even less make a request, and the goodness forbidden that I must carry out all the necessary falsery in an interview. I can’t hack it! I would like to have a trust fund or a husband who can pay my bills. I would just do it Take three months of leave to heal And beware of me, then press restart and start working again.

I led an incredible life. I love my house and my cat and my style and my friends and I love my intelligence and my potential, but I have the impression that my exhaustion retains me.

How can I solve this problem? So many books and burnout blogs seem to assume that a second income is present to take care of everything that will still have to do if I take a break, but it’s just me. How to take a real break?

Eleanor says:: Have you heard the anecdotal thing that will house dogs that often house the first week after their adoption? Something about finally feeling safe, far from chaos and the noise of the shelter, and they plunge into the deep sleep of the end of a very long watch.

Many of us, so to speak, desperate to get out of the watch, but no one comes to bring us home. How are you supposed to feel that it is finally OK to rest your eyes when there is always another bill, another task? How are you supposed to find a stay when your environment will not allow you to take a break?

A little thing that can help you are to change your reflection on personal care of activities to feelings. The personal care industry often presents “rest” as a set of actions: a party, a meditation, a particular type of exercise – sometimes conveniently grouped together. But no activity is recovery if you feel eroded and small by doing so. Activities help when they are ways to a feeling, but it is the feeling itself that counts. Frogaling through something that is supposed to make people calm will not be very useful if stress follows you throughout, or if what you needed was not calm but feeling free, silly or stimulated.

He can help name the feeling We need more details than we are used to. Not “I don’t need to not feel exhausted” but “I need to feel safe”, or “like me”, or “as I am enough”. Then we can seek ways to obtain these feelings that do not require costly months of leave. Instead of the “no screens” activity, the goal of feeling proud of something I have done today. Instead of “long walking” activity, the feeling of taking care of my environment. Do your finished leisure bursts give you the feelings you need to recharge? Are there in small ways to make them room for work?

Another strategy could be to cut the corners you can. You are clearly intelligent, energetic, capable. These qualities can rotate 90 degrees in your psyche and transform each part of life into an opportunity to do well. It doesn’t have to be. Clean irregularly. Take freezing meals. Do administrative tasks at the exact level they do not aggravate your life, then stop.

All that is said, there are only a few things you can do in your head to solve a problem outside your head. This is class and work and the need to exchange time for money. You cannot reframe that because it is not, at first, a psychological experience. It is an experience of power.

It is not up to us to stop working. In a way, it’s very defective. In another, it’s galvanizing: it gives us people to connect and fight alongside. The other women in your industry face misogyny in the workplace, the other people at this stage of their lives have highlighted retirement – a way of overcoming feelings of defeat and futility is to find these people and connect with them, not only on these feelings but also their causes.

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