Danielle Jonas says Kevin was meant to be a girl dad

For almost 16 years, Danielle Jonas has been by the side of her husband, Kevin Jonas. Yes, that Kevin Jonas, one third of the timeless Jonas Brothers.

From the outside, her world looks like a highlight reel: red carpets, front row concerts, glittering award shows and a beautiful family. But behind that glamor, Danielle was quietly waging a health battle that shook her self-confidence and forced her to rethink how she takes care of herself and her family.

But through it all, Danielle and Kevin kept one thing in mind: their two daughters, Alena, 11, and Valentina, 8.

Kevin Jonas, the ultimate daughter dad

Even though Kevin grew up surrounded by brothers, he and his bandmates Nick and Joe all became proud dads. They have five daughters between them! Danielle says the cousins ​​are incredibly close and spent much of the summer together while the Jonas Brothers were on tour. And Danielle is certain that Kevin was born to raise girls.

“Kevin never really mentioned wanting boys, so when we had two girls, he was beside himself. He always gives them what he wants, but the most important thing is how much he loves them,” she says. “He goes home whenever he can. Even if it’s a day off and a six-hour flight, he goes home for a few hours and then comes back. I give him all the credit for that.”

Alena and Valentina are already also engaging in their father’s approved hobbies.

“My oldest loves golf, so she shares that with Kevin. What about my youngest? She just started playing guitar,” Danielle shares. “Looking at them in the family room – Kevin with his guitar and Valentina with her tiny guitar – I feel like it’s making me die inside. It’s so cute!”

Family time is the best time

With girls at school and the Jonas Brothers on tour this fall, spending time with family and attending shows isn’t easy.

“We like the girls to be in school so they have some normality,” says Danielle. “The school is really accommodating when we take them out, but we don’t do that often. They’re their own people, with their friends, their routines. We really want them to choose their own path, and being at school helps with that. It would be so much harder if they were on tour all the time.”

Life in a family with a touring musician isn’t always easy, but Danielle is proud of how they make it work. When she’s home alone with the girls, she cherishes the time spent bonding. Even when Kevin is away, Danielle never feels disconnected from him. From the beginning of their relationship, they learned to work remotely.

“We were long distance when we first met, so our relationship was over the phone and we talked a lot. Kevin’s brothers would call him,” Danielle laughs. “So when he’s away now, we still talk a lot. We always tell each other what we’re doing, or say goodnight. Before he gets on the plane he calls me and when he lands. His tours last for several months, but then he leaves for a while and we’re together.”

Going Solo, surprise your girls and fans

Of course the girls are the Jonas Brothers And Kevin’s biggest fans. In August, during a Jonas Brothers tour in Boston, Kevin surprised fans by performing his solo song, “Changing,” for the very first time.

While Alena and Valentina couldn’t be there in person, Danielle says they were “freaked out” watching FaceTime. Danielle, however, had the full front row experience, calling the moment “overwhelming.”

“I knew he was going to do it, and I was like, ‘I’m not going to cry. I’m not going to cry.’ But once I saw him alone up there, I was like, ‘Oh my God,'” Danielle shares. “I was nervous for him, but so excited and I knew he was so ready. We talked about it a lot before he even did it. He did so well. His voice was unreal. I was so proud of him. ”

Inside Danielle’s private health battle

Danielle’s ordeal began when she noticed her hair was falling out. Doctors had no answers or diagnosis.

“They tried to tell me it was anxiety. Finally, I had a biopsy which showed that I actually had Lyme disease,” she says. Parents. “I also had eczema on my scalp, probably due to the inflammation [caused by Lyme disease]. The hair loss was very traumatic. I got to a point where I wanted to wear a wig.

Instead of a wig, Danielle relied on extensions. Except they irritated his eczema even more because of the way they pulled on his scalp.

“I had to go out and do things with Kevin. I just wanted to feel like myself,” she says.

That’s when Danielle went into detective mode, scrutinizing everything that touched her skin: lotions, serums, hair products, even the family’s laundry detergent. It turned out that switching from their detergent to clear all® free made a remarkable difference. Danielle has since partnered with the brand because she trusted it, especially since all of their products have received the National Eczema Association Seal of Acceptance.

Fortunately, Danielle has her Lyme disease under control. Although she still has some symptoms, including eczema flare-ups, Danielle is relieved to know it’s more manageable.

Strengthen your daughters’ self-esteem

If there’s a silver lining, it’s that Danielle’s experience has given her the empathy and know-how to help her daughters, who also suffer from eczema. She doesn’t want it to affect their self-esteem or confidence.

“They’ve seen everything I’ve been through, so the main thing I tell them [when their eczema flares up] it’s “it will pass”, says Danielle.

Like many teens these days, Danielle’s two daughters, especially Alena, take a lot of interest in their skincare routines. Danielle encourages them to use products with clean ingredients.

“I had to bring Alena back a bit. Besides eczema, she’s always had other skin issues, so it’s important to keep things clean for her,” Danielle shares. “Still, she gets upset because she wants to have fun with certain products. I just tell her, ‘Well, do you want a breakout or do you want it to be under control? This helps her come down.'”

Navigating Sibling Dynamics

Danielle has also noticed other changes with Alena now that she is in sixth grade.

“It’s just wild. She loves the clothes and the hair. We’re almost the same height, so she’s always in my closet,” she laughs.

In the Jonas (and Deleasa) household, sibling dynamics are a big issue. Danielle grew up as a classic middle child, sandwiched between an older sister and two younger siblings. Kevin, of course, is the oldest of four brothers.

Valentina hasn’t quite caught up to her big sister’s new love of fashion. Danielle shares that her youngest daughter’s “thing” is the Disney character, Stitch.

“I feel like she identifies with Stitch, but I love it,” she says.

Despite their differences, Danielle loves the relationship her daughters are building.

“Alena has always tried to take care of her younger sister. She is very affectionate and has a huge heart,” says Danielle. “Valentina wants to be alone more. I try to teach her that she also needs to care about her sister. But they love each other very much and remind me of how I was with my own siblings.”